Excuses Excuses- they are a sign that we aren’t content with particular parts of our lives- that we see a need to grow and change. If we were embodying our Truth and authentic expressions 100%, then there would be no need for excuses, defence mechanisms or apologies, as we would just BE.
If I make an excuse for not cleaning my space, it’s really a mask of embarrassment that I project outwards to blanket my perceived and expected reactions and judgements of others coming into that space… where the underlying root cause actually comes from my own yearning to “step up” and be the best person I can be- keeping a clear and tidy space to thrive in, and that requires Effort… So looking at excuses in this context, I find that people usually don’t care about the issue as much as I do… and that the excuses I give, are a trigger for me to be aware of ways in which I would like to change and grow.
Ultimately if I was completely happy with having a messy home than I wouldn’t feel the need to defend that when people come over or catch me off guard- because it wouldn’t matter. Having this realisation enabled me to look at my behaviour and interactions differently. I began to really listen to myself as I was talking- what else do I make excuses for? What parts of myself do I feel the need to defend, validate or give reason to justify my actions- and are they REALLY an authentic expression or a mask for something deeper that requires my attention?
Questioning our behaviours is a tool for uncovering the Shadow Self, to peel back the layers, programs and patterns. Of course, it helps to look at yourself with humour, as it makes the process so much more rewarding and less intense!
Blessings,
Love is…
D xx
